An article in Sunday’s New York Times, Here’s Looking at Me, Kid by Jan Hoffman was an eye-opener about one of the most baffling psychoses on the list of hardest-to-treat-or-cure disorders, narcissism.
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/07/20/fashion/20narcissist.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all&oref=slogin
Ms. Hoffman quotes authorities from the fields of both psychology and psychiatry and the conclusions were startling, unless you are a devotee of People of the Lie: the Hope for Healing Human Evil (Touchstone, second edition, 1998) by Dr. M. Scott Peck. Peck wrote how narcissists are incapable of deep and honest introspection; are selfish to the point of obsession with one’s own wishes to the detriment of spouse and children, family and friends; that, even under the care of the finest counselors and mental health specialists, narcissists do not change because the psychotic nature of their disease will not allow them to. Narcissists suffer from delusion and grandiosity, and, counter to the face they show the world, loathe themselves beyond comprehension. But as with any article that draws from the sciences, particularly psychiatry and psychology, Hoffman wrote that although she mentions well-known celebrities like Britney Spears, Madonna and Alex Rodriguez, among others, who have been labeled narcissistic, it would take one of the mental health specialists to diagnose narcissism.
There is an antidote to narcissism but I suspect it won’t ever be someone from the mental health field that will heal this dire disorder but rather an ordinary somebody possessed with a capacity that emanates from the human spirit, love. In my career as an astro-intuitive I have seen the impossible made manifest, from illnesses to sound health, bankruptcy to bounty, broken hearts to beautiful partnerships, with the transcendence of compassion, care, concern, yes, the power of love to change anything and anybody.
We all woke up a few months ago to a world that seemed to have opened up too many can of worms for us to digest or to know how to deal with: spiraling oil prices, subprime mortgage debacle, a plunging Stock Market, and the ever-present threat of terrorism and perhaps nuclear war.
It is my assessment after more than 45 years looking at astrological birth charts and counseling those who come to me, there is a bit of narcissism in all of us. When it becomes overwhelming, the narcissist is impossible to live with. If love is the reversal potency for narcissism, I would suggest that we see the challenges that face us as “our” collective challenge to turn things around rather than thinking only of ourselves individually. For those of us who endured World War II with the spirit of “we can” know that whatever confronts us all, if we see what we can do together to change our country and our lives, we will most certainly survive to thrive.
So I ask you: Did the narcissism, great or small, within you help create the chaotic world we now find ourselves in? Have you sought to have “things” beyond your means that the dark side of you demanded? Do you have the courage and faith to face down that part of you that caused the chaos in your life? I asked myself these questions recently and I have begun to rearrange priorities but reconnecting to the still small voice of intuition that speaks for my highest good.


